At my Christmas Dinner for the
American English Speaking Women of Morocco, there was little talk about Santa
and a lot of talk about love and marriage.
While I had a wonderful time, I
left feeling a bit empty and wondering if I was missing out on something. This is often how people can unintentionally
make you feel when they say, “Ohhh you’re single?” “I thought you were
married?” “Don’t worry you’ll find someone”
My response should be, I have
wasted time in relationships this past year and it feels like a total waste of
an investment. Would it be nice to have
someone special? Yes. Did I have someone
special and I I was busy being single and ignoring I was in a relationship?
Yes. Therefore, if I cannot respect a relationship then just maybe I should not
be in one.
After a lovely, lovely meal and
listening to their love stories and marriage problems, it makes me happy to be
single. Having children is wonderful,
but having your sense of self and freedom can be even better. The two girls I
was chatting it up with the whole time, one from UK and one from Maryland, have
both been with their husbands for over ten years. They both said it was love at first sight and
they are very happy, but after a few glasses of wine they spoke the truth. The
one said she would be divorced if it wasn’t for her girls, but who knows if this
was honesty or just alcohol talking.
Both of them genuinely did look happy and I felt they were happy. They spoke about their maids, drivers, and
proud of their children and their accomplishments. All these expats married to Moroccan and French
men, I couldn’t help but wonder where is my Moroccan ?
As single women, even if we feel
confident and happy with our decisions, we are spoon fed to believe that we
would be happier if we were married. Is
it possible to be happy without someone or are we just fooling ourselves into
believing we are happy? Would I rather be married than living freely and too
independently or would the love and stability actually be better for me?
It was too late with Mr. Casa when
I realized that a boring relationship was exactly what I wanted, but at the end
of the day we did not fit together and I am meant to focus on my career. How could I even focus on a boyfriend when I
can not make time for all my career ideas, thoughts, theories, and plans? For
now, I am better off alone and away from the distractions of men. It is okay to be 28
Years old and single!
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