Tuesday, January 1, 2013

Friends or "Friends"

Anyone who knows me knows that I am an extroverted person who thrives off of new people and new experiences.  For me, I lived in Chicago where I had an amazing network of friends.  I lived in LA with an even better network of friends and leaving them was heartbreaking.  I lived in New York where I had good network of friends.   Each city I move into I build my own “social network.”  Now living in Casablanca, I would like to get myself connected with a nice group of friends.  Friends to go to dinner with, cook meals with, go to the movies, explore Morocco, go dancing, road trips, and just laugh and enjoy with. 

In Casablanca, I started off with this positive mentality, but then came to realize the truth. The girls seem to be really busy and it is difficult to meet with them.  The men are always available because they want to sleep with you.  While this not true with everyone, it just is the reality of the friendship between men and women. Naturally, if the men have an attraction towards the women this will be on their mind and in their intentions. Being a bit naïve to this reality and just wanting to have cool guys as my friends, I realize that this can not always be the case, especially in Morocco. 

Some “friends” have just come off as cool and nice and then they CHANGE on you.  I can see these suttle changes and in my head I say to myself, “Oh great” or “Here we go again.” I can tell through the body language and especially through the eye contact. The eyes are very strong and revealing on every human being.  

When he looks at me, I can tell if he wants to sleep with me.  This sounds awful, but is very true and unfortunately I have seen these eyes from many men.  One may think so what? Can’t you still “just be friends”? Yes, we can still be friends until the romantic signals become weird, awkward, and uncomfortable.  There are many guys that may have this intention, but we are still great friends.  It is the ones that make things weird and ruin the friendship with their romantic interest.

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