I have never been the crazy jealous girl in the relationship, but the Arab men are the movie stars for jealousy. Their jealousy really does not leave room for two because that just equals disaster. Over the years with past boyfriends, we had a mutual trust and respect policy. I would go out with friends separately and they would go out with their friends. Sometimes I would know who they were with and sometimes I would not know. When you trust someone, you do not question them and you respect one another.
Living in an Arab country in Moroccan culture, things are seen a bit differently as men like to treat you as property and do not want to share you with anyone else. For me, I do not have a problem with my Moroccan boyfriend going out with girls, but Priscilla going out with Moroccan boys as friends-a problem with the Arab men.
With Mr. Casa, I must say I tried my best to respect his space and friendships. There were times he met for coffee or went out by himself and I just let him be. He went out with a girl for coffee one night and I did not even ask who she was or how he knew her. He went out for a work party and I did not call him at all that night and I just let him be.
It was really just that one night where the jealousy hit me like
a strike of lightning when he went over
to Rajaa’s house to see her apartment for me.
While I say jealousy does not mean love-it is an indicator of how much you care
for someone because the thought of them with someone else breaks your heart…..Perhaps I should have been more “jealous” because this would have showed him I cared. I did not show I cared by sending him over there unattended as many say they would be extremely jealous and would never do that, but I did.
What can I say, "It's just my prerogative"
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