Saturday, January 5, 2013

35 And Fabulous or 35 and Sad?

Watching Sex and the City, I feel like I have experienced the New York life, the LA life, the Chicago life, and the Single Life.   I love watching them enjoy New York and reminiscing on all those places and hot spots I used to enjoy”, but being realist and a socialite, The single life is not so interesting. 

This does not mean I want to get married and have children right now, but I question how fabulous it really is to be 35 and single.  I just think back to New York and LA with all my older friends in the their mid-thirties and even forties serial dating men and sleeping with all kinds of guys.  Going to parties with people obsessed with materialism and who do not even want to make real eye contact with you. Going to parties and feeling never good enough in a room full of botox and breast implants.  Going to parties and seeing men pray on women like they are dogs on fresh meat.  Watching my friends try desperately to meet someone and have one bad date after the next.  Seeing the same pathetic people hanging out at the same nightclubs week and week. Coming home at night to your own bed with no one in it. 

Is this fabulous? Or is finding someone special  who truly cares and loves you fabulous? The single people are looking for this someone special, but my hunch is that these single women have pushed away man great men over the years. Why?

Because we are all looking for the next best thing.

We are looking for the perfect man, which does not exist because no one is perfect.  It is sad that people just keep looking and looking and pass up good men because they are focused on being fabulous and single and waiting for a Prince charming. 

Living and traveling, I love my freedom and find solitude in being alone, but this does not mean I should push away good men that are right in front of me.  At 28, I question how fabulous it is when you have two beautiful men and you push them away for a single life that you do not really desire.  I do not want to date and waste time with getting to know men whom 80 percent I am not interested in or find flawed. 

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