Western Vs. Muslim Dating

Living in Muslim countries for almost 7 months, I got to thinking about the Westernized life of dating.  While being with one man limits your experience and he may not be the best match for you at the end of the day, but what about accepting what you are given  and just making it work?

Many Muslim women are getting married at younger ages and influenced by family values and their religious values.  Muslim women are not off dating for ten years and then saying, “Ok now it is time to get married and have kids.” They have these strong family values and intention for marriage set from the beginning.

Of course, there is not always a pot of gold at the end of these rainbows. Women are sitting in marriages unhappy and divorce is becoming more accepted, but still highly discouraged and frowned upon.  Women might be stuck in broken relationships that just can not be fixed.  This maybe a lifetime of unhappiness for them, but at least they did not invest time into 10 different relationships.

Being a full believer of living your life by experience, it is different with relationships.  One goes through the developmental stages in the Western world of first love, college boyfriend, a few more boyfriends, and then potential life/marriage partner.  The developmental stages and my theory do not include: having relationship after relationship with different men until you are 40 and still single.  This is not fabulous and completely an unnecessary waste of time. 

For a woman to invest so much of HER time and LIFE into dating, it is unfortunate.  Smart women are the ones who focus on their career and then at some point they meet someone and get married.  Girls who are just out dating and floating from relationship to relationship hoping that this next one might be “the one”-wake up and realize how much time you are wasting.

When you are with a man, there is the decoding of mixed messages rather than accepting the facts.  There is distraction of thoughts, feelings, and being consumed with that person.  You spend time getting to know this person, what they like to eat, what sports they like, their family background, etc. 6 months, 1 year, or longer and then you break up.  Was this worth your time investment?

That is why it is important to focus on career and you and take men out of the equation.  I have never been the woman looking for that perfect guy to get married, but men just seem to find me and meddle with my life.

Women are just lying to themselves if they want to run around dating different men waiting to find the right one.  It is exhausting and time consuming having to get to know a new person each time.  Having one person to know you and love you inside out conquers all.

 

Real love conquers all and you will know it when you find it. Until that point- relax, enjoy, live, breathe, smile, travel, explore, and let your self shine.  There will be the wrong people attracted to that shine inside you, but keep it shining for that one- he will find you or perhaps you will find each other..It's this thing called fate. PRIS